Comments for The Official Love Dare Journal

Comment on Day 9: Love makes good impressions by learningtolove

learningtolove — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 13:47:34 +0000

I greeted him this morning before heading out to work. The kids started back to school today so I have a day to myself. We cuddled in the bed for awhile before getting up and he rubbed my back alittle. We talked a few moments then kissed goodbyes. He has the greatest smile, just warms my heart!!

Comment on Day 8: Love is not jealous by learningtolove

learningtolove — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 13:43:54 +0000

I had to wait to burn my list today. Everyone was here yesterday, but I used the positive list to remind me why I fell in love with him throughout the day. I noticed I have been calmer, not as jealous, and lean on God more to handle things I cant. So its all good right now. I have to trust that God is working in both of us and letting my husband see that yes its okay to look at harley’s but the nasty photos some leave on those sites are not. We as women have our own obstacles to tend to and I think that is one of men. Its in God’s hands now I am letting it go. So on to the next dare I go!!!

Comment on Day 5: Love is not rude by stevenbeth

stevenbeth — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 03:33:43 +0000

Day 5 was so hard. Her response hurt and made me angry. She was right for the most part, but for some of it she couldn’t be further from the truth. My wife thinks there is no way I’m doing this to improve our relationship or myself. She believes I have some hidden agenda and its some kind of trick or trap. She is paranoid and moody. It makes doing this, such a roller coaster ride. One day she is so receptive, and the next shes telling me Im wasting my time. She’s never the same two days in a row. When I read her email of the three things that irritate her, I immediately started writing one back. I was really letting her have it, and the whole time God was saying stop. I finally listened, and deleted it just as I was finishing. Instead, I sent her a reply that just said, “thank you”. Taking criticism is one of the things I have to work on. I’ve been spending a lot of time praying for my wife. Somethings not right. Her mood swings have got worse over the years and she’s often depressed. Nothing I do seems to help, so I’ve given it to God. I never know what to expect when I come through the door.

Comment on Day 5: Love is not rude by busymom67

busymom67 — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 23:52:46 +0000

Is it me or is anyone else going through this. This harder I try to be understanding and patient the more he seems to push me away. He has started hanging up on me alot. He is supposed to come home for our daughters birthday Friday. He does seem to be finding ways to not make it now. Please pray he does make it.

Comment on Day 5: Love is not rude by busymom67

busymom67 — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 20:11:24 +0000

This is my first post although I am getting ready to start day 6. I thought it was going pretty well until yesterday. My hubby has been really depressed, not just sad, for several mths. He has been having chest pains in the afternoon and anxiety attacks. It is the stress of the business he started a year ago. Seems like more than the normal has gone wrong lately. He is a subcontractor and in July he went 6 weeks without work. He felt the stress for us and his employees. Then in early Nov. I felt him withdrawing from everyone and (due to past experiences) looked through his wallet and found a womans number one a business card. I questioned him and long story short..have let it go. Put it did make him pull away more. Then his brother, to whom he was extremely close, died on 12-22. He really closed off. He says he loves me and wants our marriage but has shut off all his feelings for me right now and just needs time.
These dares have been hard but I have put my all into them. Yesterday he hung up on me, I called back and hung up on him…then text him he needed to see a psychiatrist. Then I read day 5 and immediately text him an apology (I knew he wouldn’t answer a call). He says he forgives me…although he never apologizes…oh well. I ask him about the three things and he still hasn’t given me an answer.
My 12yr old son asked me what the book was about. I read him dare 1 and 2 then he said, “mom, you are like that to dad everyday.” I went back and read #2 to remind myself not to get proud of my actions and do them with the right heart always.
Well, I am moving on to day 6. I plan to work on things from day 5 that he has mentioned in the past and will wait with patience until he has his three picked out.

Comment on Day 7: Love believes the best by learningtolove

learningtolove — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 02:04:38 +0000

My list of positives were super easy and alot! I really didnt have to think on it. The negative, I really had to stop and think. I had a few but not many at all. He really is a rare breed and a gentleman. He still opens doors for me and calls every night he works to tell his kids and I goodnight and I love you. I know at times I take him for granted and I am really trying to let him know now how much he means to me and how much I see him do for me and our family. I am sooo thankful to God for bringing him into my life!

Comment on Day 4: Love is thoughtful by angelmom1995

angelmom1995 — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 04:34:27 +0000

that is inspirational….. I think I will take that challenge in the morning to do something different for once to spice up the relationship.

Comment on Day 6: Love is not irritable by learningtolove

learningtolove — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 18:37:35 +0000

I dont have a real busy schedule where I need to slow down and let things go, but I do need to get out more and learn to say yes to a few things. Things I need to change are stop letting everything upset my day. It is a waste of good energy and very unproductive. It pushes my family away too! So each day I catch myself I have to do or say something positive and apologize. Habits are truly hard to break but not impossible. Divide house chores more so I am not the only one doing them and stressing out over it. I have two teenagers who are capable just dont want to unless I fuss. So each day except weekends I am writing one chore for each to do. If not done they have to do 2 things the next day plus lose something for awhile. It was working great until I stopped do to the holidays so I am getting back on track!!

Comment on Day 5: Love is not rude by learningtolove

learningtolove — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 18:28:52 +0000

oops! I mean on to day 6 !! my the days fly by doing this.

Comment on Day 5: Love is not rude by learningtolove

learningtolove — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 18:26:17 +0000

I just read my post from back in Nov. and now I will post today. I restarted the challenge because I didnt feel I gave it 100%. Plus I feel I have a closer connection with God then I did before. So, I asked the what 3 things bother him or make him uncomfortable that I do. It took him a few minutes and 1. I yell to much about things 2. I see things on tv that bother me(all the sex, drinking, yck shows)and complain about it even though I dont watch them. 3. didnt have one Then I asked for 3 positive things (to make me feel better! lol) 1. easy to get along with 2. I will try new things most of the time 3. good mom
So, on that I all is well. I new the temper things would come up I am working on that daily. So hopefully before I know it I will be calmer and more self disciplined. The tv thing really bother me because I teach and think of all the young kids seeing this mess and I think of people in relationships. I dont see how those shows help or encourage true balance, trust, work or anything positive to keep people together. I wish they would go back to some good ol comedy family shows! We need more positive things in the world. anyway, on to day 5!!!!