Day 2 Day
I decided that I would spend a few extra days on the last dare and really concentrate on my prayer time and studying the word of God. I can really feel Him working in my life as well as my families lives. It has been tough to remember pray. I want to learn to pray to thank God, and not just to lean on Him in times of trouble.
It is my belief that the journal/notebook that I have placed in Stacey’s, car has been accepted with out conflict. I have written in it a few times, and have received no feedback, so I’ll take that as a sign of acceptance. At least she didn’t throw it out.
I have also been reading The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. After reading the book I took the survey in the back and discovered my love language.
The five love languages are as follows:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Recieving Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
My love language is Physical Touch, with Words of Affirmation running a very close second. Now that I know this, I should be able to help Stacey learn to love me in a way that I need, when she is ready. The roadblock that I am currently facing is trying to figure out Stacey’s primary love language.
In the past she has told me that I should be able to tell that she loves me because of all that she does for me (Acts of Service). She also has bought me several items of clothing that I don’t really need (Gift Receiving). Both of these rated very low in my survey, so I was not recognizing them as gestures of love. It is my current belief that these may actually be Stacey’s primary love languages.
If anyone has any insight on this topic or words of encouragement, I would love to have further input. I am in constant prayer for that “break through” moment in my marriage. As it is I will count all the forward baby steps, as blessings from God.
November 13th, 2009 at 9:31 am
Ed,
I too have read The Five Love Languages and thought it was absolutely brilliant. I had never seen a lot of the things going on as acts of love, but now I do and it’s made a world of difference. My wife was never a ’self-help’ book kind of person, thinking they were a waste of time, so I just took the survey in the book and started asking her the questions via email and on the phone. In the end I had an excellent idea of what her love language was and began giving that particular language more care.
My love language is ‘Words of Affirmation’, followed closely by ‘Physical Touch’… hers, oddly enough is ‘Physical Touch’ with nothing even remotely close for a second place. It’s funny though, as her idea of physical touch and my idea of physical touch are much different.
I am learning though, even after 24 years of marriage. Old dogs CAN learn new tricks. HA!
Praying for you and yours…
In Christ,
MyAll4Him